When toughing it out alone isn’t enough
I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on how transformative it can be to ask for help. How absolutely life-changing it can be to receive support.
So many things become possible when we get the right support. Less stress and overwhelm, more ease, grace, and alignment with our goals and values.
When we’re not trying to be all things to all people, or tackle every last item on our to do list alone, we gain the freedom to live in a way that feels authentically good and right to us.
We’re able to breathe a little more easily knowing we don’t have to figure it all out by ourselves, because other people are there to help us through.
And, while I don’t want to suggest that productivity is the most important thing, it’s also true that receiving support enables us to be more easefully—and joyfully—productive.
No one enjoys having to put out fires all the time, alone. No one enjoys having to navigate big feelings, major hardships, challenging relationship dynamics, or painful traumas alone.
Yet so often, we hesitate to ask for the help we need. We assume there must be something wrong with us if we’re not 100% self-sufficient. We worry that others will perceive us as incompetent if we’re not able to do it all ourselves.
So we stay quiet and attempt to power through, alone, until we’re exhausted, discouraged, left wondering where we went wrong.
The truth is, you don’t need to try harder. You don’t need to strive more. You don’t need to tough it out.
I’m here to tell you unequivocally: You do not have to work hard to earn the support you need. You don’t have to wait until you’ve exhausted every last effort. You are not in any way incompetent for needing (or perhaps simply wanting) help.
You deserve to be supported right now simply because you are human.
Especially when it comes to your healing. We do not heal alone, in a vacuum, shut away from other people. The hard truth is that much of the time, we require caring relationships to heal.
You are worthy of the support you need to heal. You are innately deserving of the ease, trust, and freedom that will allow you to thrive.
If you’re ready to receive the support you need and deserve, I would be honored to be in your corner. Apply to work together right here. xo
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